Healthy eating

Healthy Eating Made Easy (ish)

Now, I am by no means a nutritionist or health expert, but I am trying (trying being the optimum word here) to become healthier myself and I thought I’d share some of my tips and tricks with others who might be trying to get a little healthier, as I know how hard it is. So here are some food swaps that might ease your cravings for less healthy options 😊 I hope this helps! Let me know if you’d like any more food/health related posts in the future.

Craving crisps?

Try peanuts instead!

There. Did my enthusiasm make that sound any more appealing?… Maybe not, but the saltiness you’re craving from crisps might be satiated by salted peanuts, cashew nuts or almonds. Another of my fave options are chilli coated peanuts like these:


You could also try almond butter on oatcakes or brown bread. It takes a bit to get used to, but it’s pretty good.

Hate the taste of porridge but don’t want to add 50g of sugar?

Try putting fruit or jam on porridge so you add less sugar. You could also try adding cacao powder, which is unprocessed cocoa and also vegan. This makes it slightly chocolatey but still healthy, as cacao is rich in iron & potassium, extremely high in copper & magnesium and loaded with zinc. I know some people like putting almond butter on porridge too, but that’s not my cup of tea. Here’s a link to cacao powder from Holland & Barrett:


Can’t get enough of your carbs?

Honestly, baked goods are my weakness. I love me some toast, but for a while I’ve been having brown bread, rice and pasta instead of white. Two slices of white bread actually raises your blood sugar levels more than a chocolate bar! 😳 crazy, right?! Brown sugar is also better for you; or, if you want a healthier alternative to sugar you could try agave nectar, which is vegan and sold in all your local supermarkets. This one is from Tesco:

Craving chocolate?

Try having fruit/nut and chocolate shots instead of a chocolate bar – I like these ones from Whitworths:


Other options that are healthier than a chocolate bar include chocolate covered fruit and dark chocolate (I love the Lindt dark chocolate with orange).

Craving chips?

Have sweet potato fries! Chop up a sweet potato, shove it on an oven tray with a dash of olive oil for 20 minutes or so and bam! A healthy but delicious snack or side dish. You can also add a bit of paprika if you’re feeling wild. 😉 And if you’re feeling lazy, supermarkets sell pre-prepared sweet potato fries too. I hadn’t even tried sweet potatoes before about a year ago, and now I love them.


Literally the easiest way to add more vitamins and minerals to your diet

Pop some seeds or superfoods into your cereal and smoothies. You can’t really taste them at all but they add loads of good vitamins and minerals. Some good ones include chia seeds, flax seeds and spirulina (some people who are pregnant or have PKU or autoimmune illnesses don’t react well to spirulina though, so check with your doctor first).


Remember, the most important thing should not be losing weight, but being healthy and happy. These are just some tips I’ve found helpful, but I’m no expert. 😊 If you need more advice, see your doctor or a nutritionist for help.

Here is the number for Beat, an eating disorder helpline (UK): 0808 801 0677

Here is the number for Butterfly national helpline (Australia): 1800 33 4673

Here is the number for NEDA national helpline (USA): (800) 931-2237.

Advice, Apprenticeships, Education, Teenagers, University, Young people

Uni Vs. Apprenticeships

Most schools and colleges act as though the only option post-school is university. And who can blame them? Apprenticeships are only for things like carpentry and hairdressing, right? Wrong.

Although degrees are extremely useful and respected by employers, something that is equally – if not more – important, is experience. With university + social life taking up most hours out of the week, a lot of university students don’t have time or energy for a job, therefore they leave uni at minimum age 21 with a degree but little/no experience. This often leads to them starting off at the bottom of the pile all over again. On top of this, they are left in thousands of pounds of debt from their student loans.

Now, this is not at all to put anyone off going to uni; it is a fantastic experience and extremely valuable, and necessary for certain careers. However, it is not for everyone, and it is certainly not the only way to get a qualification.

Apprenticeships have advanced a lot in recent years, with a lot of money now being put into them, and you can now get a degree from them – on top of the experience you get! And there are apprenticeships in almost every career out there: accounting, journalism, business, marketing, law, education etc.

In addition, as most apprenticeships are only a year long – unless you get offered a job at the end – you could still go to university afterwards. Apprenticeships are a good way of seeing if that career is right for you and getting experience which would look good on your personal statement, especially if you have never studied a subject close to the career you want to go in to (e.g. marketing, which you can’t study in school or college). Universities like to see that you have done something which shows you are passionate about the subject you will be studying. Moreover, for someone who is uncertain of the career they want to go into, the average £40,000 cost of 3 years of university (for tuition and maintenance fees combined) is an exorbitant amount of money; there is no point in spending that much money “just because”. Apprenticeships also suit people who prefer to learn by doing, rather than by theoretical learning.

And you get paid, instead of ending up in more debt! Granted, the minimum wage for apprenticeships is only £3.50 an hour for the first year, but they are also paying for your qualification, and some companies pay a fair bit more than the minimum. It’s also a good way to save up a bit before going to uni. You could earn up to £10,000 per year instead of spending £9000 a year on tuition.

How apprenticeships work:

Technically, in an apprenticeship you will have a job. You will have an interview and work for the company as any other employee. However, it is slightly different as on either 2 days a week, or in a block of a few weeks, you will go to a college or education centre to learn your qualification, which will link in with what you are doing at work. Your employer won’t expect you to know everything at first, but they are there to support you. According to QA Apprenticeships’ research, 94% of those who do apprenticeships though QA go on to have a full time job once the apprenticeship is finished, and 100% are satisfied with their job.

Whatever you choose to do post-college, it is important to know all of your options and not be rushed or pressured into a decision by family/friends/societal expectations.

Here is a link to the government website with a list of all possible apprenticeships at all different skill levels:

Here are some apprenticeship providers:

QA Apprenticeships:

AIM Apprenticeships:


Here is another good post on the topic:

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Eating disorders, Feminism, Mental illness

Why doesn’t anybody care about men?

In 2013, 6,233 suicides were recorded in the UK for people aged 15 and older. Of these, 78% were male and 22% were female. (source: the Scottish Health Survey, 2013 edition)

The National Institute of Health and Clinical Excellence estimates around 11% of those affected by an eating disorder are male. However, recent research from the NHS information centre showed that up to 6.4% of adults displayed signs of an eating disorder (Adult Psychiatric Morbidity Survey, 2007). This research suggests that up to 25% of those showing signs of an eating disorder were male.

So why do men get the least help?

The truth is, many men are afraid or ashamed to ask for help because they are stigmatised by society. People think that the patriarchy only negatively affects women, but it targets men too as they expected to be masculine and unemotional. This begins right in childhood when a boy is told to “man up” and not cry if he falls and hurts himself, whereas a little girl will be cuddled and comforted. Men are encouraged to take on more and more: have six packs, drive a nice car, have a great job – all piling on the stress and increasing the likelihood of mental illness. Bottling up all these emotions also can make men lash out and expose their emotions via violence rather than by crying, and this is often praised as being manly.

A Samaritans study found that just 19% of men felt comfortable sharing their problems with other people, despite saying that they would be happy to listen to other people’s problems. This is the issue; men are told to always be the listeners – told that women love talking about themselves and to always ask about their day and their problems. But a man who treats their partner well, should receive equal treatment. Ladies reading this, create a safe place for your male friend or boyfriend or brother or son to come to you with their problems; don’t pester them with it but tell them that the option is there.

Although more women are reportedly abused than men, this presumes that all men who are abused, report it. However, this is not the case. Even if more men did report abuse, there is a severe lack of refuges for male domestic abuse victims, especially those with children that also need refuge. (In a recent research project 90% of men who called a domestic abuse helpline said their main reason for staying with their abusive partner was their concern for their children). AMEN is the only domestic abuse resource in Ireland for men.

Additionally, abuse of men is normalised by the media; too many films show scenes where a woman is being emotionally or physically abusive to a man and it isn’t taken seriously. This makes the situation worse as it could mean some men might not even realise they are being abused. Abuse can occur in both heterosexual and homosexual relationships, and should be taken seriously whether the perpetrator is male, female or other.

Nevertheless, the situation for men is getting better as more and more people realise that there is a severe lack of help for men who are victims of abuse or mental illnesses. I have left below a selection of numbers and websites which might help. Please share this if you know a man who might benefit from this.

Men Heal – for all men who suffer from depression/anxiety worldwide, and for women who know a man with a mental health issue


CALM is the Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men aged 15-35.


Depression Alliance


Men’s Health Forum 24/7 stress support for men by text, chat and email.






Mankind Initiative: 01823 334244

Samaritans UK: 08457 90 90 90 (24hrs a day)

Mental illness, Relationships, Teenagers, Uncategorized, Young people

Dating with mental illnesses

Having a mental illness is one of the hardest things a person can go through. But imagine watching the person you love most in the world having panic attacks, being depressed and/or anxious. How does someone deal with that?

Trust & Communication

Your partner may be closed off at times and find it difficult to trust you, and this can really hurt. You might be thinking, “why won’t they confide in me? I haven’t done anything for them not to trust me”, and this is understandable. Unfortunately, though, many people with mental illnesses feel like a burden on the people around them and/or are afraid of seeming attention seeking. It helps to regularly tell your partner that you love and care for them, that they can trust you and rely on you. Always make them feel like the relationship is a safe space for them to share any worries.

It is Not Your fault

You may feel like asking your partner, “why am I not enough to make you happy?” or be hurt that they feel anxious around you, but you have to remember that it’s not necessarily your fault – just find out if your partner has any particular triggers that you might set off unknowingly. Feelings of anxiety and depression happen regardless of how many people love the sufferer. Even if they are happy with you, they may not *be* happy in themselves.

Also keep in mind any outside triggers that they might have; for example, feeling particularly anxious in crowds – this could include cinemas, shopping centres and supermarkets. If they start to panic, do your best to get them out of the situation as quickly but as calmly as possible  (a bit like how they handle fire drills at school ; you want to get out quickly without panicking them more). You might have to explain to other people sometimes, too, and many people won’t understand. If your partner has anxiety they may want to avoid certain events, and though you should support them and be there for them, make sure you don’t isolate yourself in the process. Encourage, but don’t force them to go into social situations.

Take Care of You

Let them know, gently, if you are struggling, and what you need. Your needs are important too. You are allowed to be down sometimes as well, and allowed to lean on them for support. Remember you are not their therapist; you are not a professional and it is not your job to ‘cure’ them. You can merely make their illnesses easier to cope with and help them on their way to recovery.

Self Harm

It is heartbreaking if someone you love is harming themselves. Unfortunately, asking them to stop rarely ever works as it is addictive and your partner’s reasons for doing so may be deep-rooted. Try to remember that self harm is a coping mechanism; even if it is also harmful. Just try to support your partner, make sure they clean any wounds and encourage them to seek help from professionals. It may help you yourself to ask them why they self harm, to help you understand better. Is it a way of punishing theirself? Is it a way to show mental pain on the outside? Everyone self harms for different reasons, so don’t make assumptions. Additionally, there are many leaflets and helplines which offer support to the loved ones of those who self harm.

Learn Their Love Language

Different things make different people feel loved. Some people love being held when they feel down, while others don’t want to be touched at all when they feel that way. Ask your partner which they prefer, and try to respect that even if it hurts that they want to be left alone for a while. As for what to say when your partner is panicking, speak in a calm voice to try to relax them. Remind them that everything is going to be okay and they are not alone. If they are depressed, it is important that you make them feel wanted and needed as their self esteem could get extremely low; they could think you would be better off without them, for example. If you have a partner who has blacked out, just explain to them what happened and tell them they are safe now and nothing is wrong with them. Don’t feel bad if you sometimes get frustrated or don’t know what to do; the most important thing is just being there for them, even if you say nothing.

Nevertheless,  people with mental illnesses are often the most empathetic, kind people you will ever meet. They will stand by you through your hard times as you have with theirs. They may have mental illnesses, but there is also so much more to them and it is possible to have an incredible relationship even if one or both of you have mental health issues.

Samaritans UK: 08457 90 90 90 (24hrs a day)

Anxiety UK: 08444 775 774 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-5.30pm)

Relate (relationship advice): 0300 100 1234 (for information on their services)

CALM is the Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men aged 15-35.


Depression Alliance


Men’s Health Forum 24/7 stress support for men by text, chat and email.


Nightlife (emotional support to students -open all night)


Men Heal – for all men who suffer from depression/anxiety worldwide, and for women who know a man with a mental health issue


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